Your Attitude To Parenting
Parenting is not an exact science. However right the decision to have a child may seem at the time, it may be helpful to ask your selves the following questions. If you answer yes to more than five, you may need to think about your attitude to parenting:
Do you already have ambitions for your children’s future?
Are you uncertain about how parental actions affect children?
Do you still need to work out some of your views on parenting?
Do you think that after the birth, instinct will take over and you’ll know exactly how to be have toward your child?
Are you worried that you and your partner have different ideas about parenting?
Do you believe in a strict routine for a new born baby?
Do you think a baby would benefit from such a routine?
Can a young baby be spoiled?
Do you believe that babies cry for no reason?
Will you leave investigating child care until after the birth?
Are your views on baby care at odds with those of your partner?
Will you find it hard to tolerate all the disorder of a new baby?
Do you foresee any conflict with family members about the way you intend to care for your baby?
It’s rare for a couple to feel that everything is just right and that the perfect moment has arrived to have a child, but now that we have control over our fertility, it gives time for all the options to be considered carefully.
Making The Decision
For many people, finances and accommodation may be the most pressing issues when making the decision whether to become parents. Others may look at their personal freedom, and how having a child may affect it. In today’s society, where more and more women are finding satisfaction in the progress of their careers, making the decision to break off and have a child can be extraordinarily difficult. Although many companies and countries are providing improved maternity leave and benefits, this may not compensate for the fact that having a baby could delay your career prospects, especially if you want to spend more than a few months at home with your baby. This is one reason why many women, particularly those with satisfying or high powered jobs, are waiting to start a family at least until their thirties, when they feel that they’ve reached a level of achievement that enables them to stand back from their careers with confidence.
Making Space For Parenthood
Men also need to think about how their work commitments may impact on their relationship with their children. Many older men who become parents for a second time in a new relationship have acknowledged that they regretted having missed out on their first family’s childhood because pressures of work effectively separated them from their children. Child hood passes quickly and you only have one chance with any child, so think about how much time you will be able to give to her.
Practical Consideration
You can bring up a child in anything from a two room apartment on up ward if there’s a separate space for the baby, that’s ideal. If you’re thinking of moving in to a larger home to accommodate future children, try to move be fore you become pregnant; other wise, it’s best to wait until after your baby is born. You don’t want the double pressure of a new baby and moving. No one pretends there isn’t a financial implication in parenthood, but the cost of having a baby is largely dependent on what a couple sees as essential. Rest assured that no baby in a second hand crib with one or two loving parents ever lay awake wondering why she didn’t have an expensive new crib with Brahms’ lullaby wafting from the attached electronic musical box. Never the less, it makes sense to make the best of what’s available. Look at your likely in come and expenditure once the baby is born, taking account of any benefits and plan accordingly. When ever your purse allows you to shop, invest in the basic minimum leave luxuries until you can really afford them.
By: Prahalad Singh
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